Adaptive Autism

A dangerous trend I see in the neurodivergent community online is a fierce resistance to help oneself. It’s a narrative that reads “I have x issue therefore I cannot do y.” Sometimes that’s valid for the benefit of one’s health and avoiding extreme detriment. 

As in, “I have auditory and visual processing issues, therefore I cannot attend loud, busy concerts, even with ear and eye protection. It is absolutely too overstimulating, and I will go into meltdown.” (an example) For others, like me, that can be true on some days and not others depending on how much stimulation we’ve been receiving lately. And so on.

Here’s where I tend to object…

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Dear Conservative Friends: A Letter to Encourage Dialogue Across Barriers

Dear Conservative Friends,

I’m here because I’d like to start a dialogue with you. I am tired of the fighting across what seems to be a Grand Canyon of a divide. While I have a few of what you would consider socially liberal opinions and facets of my identity, I don’t subscribe to a political affiliation. I would rather work cooperatively. Too many lives are being lost, societies all over the world are in steep decline, and when we look deep into our souls, I don’t think we actually want different things. I think we need to do a better job at communicating as if we were friends, a less dysfunctional family, and finding a way to let people get on with their lives when they do things that upset us.

There are going to be a lot of blurred lines, and some that aren’t. We are going to have to compromise. What is most important is that we are going to have to learn to respect and love each other. Love is the most important thing in this world. 

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